Happiness Comes from Actions

Happiness Comes from Actions

Focus on the positive things in yourself and in the people around you. Appreciate what is positive in yourself and others. This way you become more OK with yourself and the people in your world instead of ranking them and yourself and creating differences in your mind.


And remember, you cannot win if you keep comparing. Just consciously realizing this can be helpful. No matter what you do you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that has more than you or are better than you at something.


Seeing the negative aspects of whichever situation you are in and dwelling on those details is a sure way to make yourself unhappy and to drag down the mood for everyone around you.


Overcoming this habit can be tricky. One thing that has worked for me is to kick the perfectionism habit. You accept that things and situations will have their upsides and downsides rather than thinking that all details have to positive and excellent. You accept things as they are. This way you can let go emotionally and mentally of what is negative instead of dwelling on it and making mountains out of molehills.


Limiting life because you believe the world revolves around you.  If you think that the world revolves around you and you hold yourself back because you are afraid what people may think or say if you do something that different or new then you are putting some big limits on your life.


You can become less open to trying new things and growing.  You can think that the criticism and negativity you encounter is about you or that it is your fault all the time, while it in reality could be about the other person having bad week or you thinking that you can read minds.


Realize people do not care too much about what you do. They have their hands full with worrying about their own lives and what people may think of them instead. Yes, this might make you feel less important in your own head. But it also sets you free a bit more if you would like that.


Focus outward. Instead of thinking about yourself and how people may perceive you all the time, focus outward on the people around you. Listen to them and help them. This will help you to raise your self-esteem and help you to reduce that self-centered focus.


Life can be pretty complicated. This can creates stress and unhappiness. But much of this is often created by us. Yes, the world may be becoming more complex but that does not mean that we cannot create new habits that make your own lives a bit simpler.


Splitting your focus and having your attention all over the place in everyday life. I replaced that complicating habit with just doing one thing at a time during my day, having a small to-do list with 2-3 very important items and writing down my most important goal on white board that I see each day.


Having too much stuff. I replaced that habit with regularly asking myself: have I used this in the past year? If not then I will give that thing away or throw it away.


Creating relationship problems of any kind in your mind. Reading minds is hard. So, instead ask questions and communicate. This will help you to minimize unnecessary conflicts, misunderstandings, negativity and waste or time and energy.


Getting lost in the in-box. I spend less time and energy on my email in-box by just checking it once a day and writing shorter emails (if possible not more than 5 sentences.)


Getting lost in stress and overwhelm. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind then, breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again. Then you can start focusing on doing what is most important for you again.


Please get back with me.


Have A Great Day.


Be Respected: Lonnie E. Shipe

Don’t concern yourself with being liked.  Instead, be respected.


Respect is earned, not given. And regardless of your age, gender or ethnicity anyone can earn respect by conducting themselves with integrity. Gaining the respect of others will not happen overnight, but once earned respect will have people listening to what you say.


Respect Others. Because respect is a two-way street, by respecting others you will find yourself respected. This is also known as the “Golden Rule” of treating others as you wish to be treated.


Do not “bad-mouth” other people. If there is a problem, try addressing it directly with the person instead of talking behind their back.


See the opposing viewpoint. Trying to understand another person’s views, even if different from your own, does not mean agreeing with them, but does show respect for their opinion.


Respect Yourself. If you do not respect yourself, others will sense this and treat you accordingly.  Take care of your appearance by being hygienic. Being poorly groomed usually sends a negative message to others about your self-worth.


Stand up for your beliefs. Expressing your true feelings, even when they run contrary to the social norm, shows a sense of confidence in yourself. This is difficult to do, but a person with the courage to stand apart from the crowd and think independently is often regarded with respect.


Do your best at every task. Even the difficult or menial ones. Establishing your competency or even mastery of a field will help others realize the value of your efforts.


Keep your word. A person who honors their promises is considered trustworthy.  If you cannot keep your word, gracefully communicate why.


Be a Role Model. Conduct yourself professionally, and hold yourself to high standards. After all, actions speak louder than words. And sometimes actions can even inspire others.


Be the change you want to see in the world-consider volunteering. Most people wait until their retirement to consider what legacy they will build. Start making yours now.


What is your greatest passion and how have you been able to develop and sustain it?


Everyone has a passion, the key is using these passions to help others, ourselves or something to help improve a person’s life.  Being in a wheelchair for the rest of my life is rough but we still must find our passion.


There are only two emotions: pain and pleasure. And passion is an offspring stream that flows between the two. It feeds-forward into pleasure the lessons it learns from the pain.  The only fundamental wealth we have is that of passion. You can create anything with it.


Your goals are in terms of ‘giving’, not ‘getting’, ‘grasping’ or ‘achieving’.  Everyone has a passion the key is using our passion to help others, ourselves or something to help improve one’s life.  One of my passions is to help a few students with financial aid, to continue their education.  Hopefully this will be possible not only in the United States but in the Philippines, where my wife and I will retire.


Another passion is to receive the physical help while living with our family overseas, that I will need when I get older because of my Cerebral Palsy and my spinal cord injury.  But I also want to help a few other people improve their living conditions when we retire to the Philippines.


Being in a wheelchair for the rest of my life is rough but we still must find our passion.  A passion for helping ourselves along our life journey and certainly a passion for helping others somehow, somewhere, sometime is what we should have.  Helping others, to help put a poor student through college, and I have a passion to get the physical help that I need. But a great powerful passion for me because I am being disabled I need help from others in most every situation is to retire to the Philippines and receive my help and I would still be able to help countless other people.


Please visit my crowdfunding project!  http://eugenia.goldcrowdfunding.com/project


Let us be passionate for others.


Have a great day!

Hello World: Lonnie E. Shipe

Lonnie E. Shipe writes

Hello World:

In the next several minutes while writing this blog.   Blogging takes a good long time for me, I type with a broken window blind rod with a pencil eraser on one end.  Imagine, I type one stroke at a time, just like…well never mind, I think you can come up with your own couple of ideas.

Also, I can not type or write because my hands and fingers tingle and are numb from my spinal cord injury.  I lost my balance and fell off my crutches in June 1994 in the bathroom and broke my neck when my head hit the wall face first. I heard my bones break, it sounded just like breaking a pencil. There I laid for six hours on the bathroom floor while my wife was working.

The reason why I used crutches to begin with and leg braces years earlier, I was born with Cerebral Palsy. So now, I am trapped in bondage, in this body with Cerebral Palsy, where my body does not cooperate with my brain, plus the SCI just made me ten times more helpless it seems.

But I am not complaining about those things. I have a damaged brain but that, “I am making no excuses”, and some things do not come easy for my brain.  But I am not dumb or stupid.  From the first twelve years in school, I had bad grades.  During junior college, I did much better, because I took things slower, three years to finish junior college.  My Junior & Senior year in college was hard. I enrolled in Graduate School, with letters of recommendations, not because of my GPA.  However, in Grad School, I graduated with an honor society

The computer, AOL, Facebook and IBO are my links to the “Normal World”.  I am not house bound, I am blessed by God to have a home, wife & daughter.

My largest frustration is, “My mind says yes, my body laughs at me and says no”, a life long struggle until death. Military careers and their wars, battles, last until they retire, my war ends when I die.

I have a simple life but I do need help everyday from others, my wife, daughter, friends etc.  Two of few goals I have left is to write my story and help promote the video email site but I need help here too.

Thank you for listening.

Lonnie Shipe


Earth Day Stewardship


“What’s the use of a fine house if you haven’t got a tolerable planet to put it on?”
― Henry David Thoreau

Happy Earth Day, from Conservation Halton!

Earth Day is like Christmas for Conservation Authorities: we practice stewardship to protect our Natural Heritage and Biodiversity year round, so we like to yell a little louder on a day celebrating nature. Earth Day is another reminder of the beautiful ‘home’ we have in the watershed. From Hilton Falls, the Turkey Vultures soaring over Rattlesnake Point, and Trilliums carpeting the escarpment: we have many reasons to practice stewardship daily in the community.

For more on our Natural Heritage at Conservation Halton, please click here: http://www.conservationhalton.ca/natural-heritage


The responsible planning and management of resources; stewardship.  The concepts of stewardship can be applied to the environment, economics, health, property, information, theology.

Environmental stewardship refers to responsible use and protection of the natural environment through conservation and sustainable practices.

Aldo Leopold (1887–1948) championed environmental stewardship based on a land ethic “dealing with man’s relation to land and to the animals and plants which grow upon it.



Landscape Maintenance

Landscape Maintenance

We want the shape and form of the household or business landscape to remain for the duration of our ownership of the property.   The knowledge and the act of pruning is a calming and productive gardening routine that will keep your landscape in good form.

Most shrubs will react unfavorably to shearing and will die slowly.  When shearing a hedge, shape the top to allow the sun to reach the bottom of the plants.  Once the hedge has reached the desired size you can maintain that shape and size with proper pruning.

Planning and selective plant choices will ease the need for excessive pruning, shearing or replanting.  Having plants that will mature to the desired height, shape and texture will be well worth the time and effort.


Landscape Maintenance

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